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These are the Best Sex Toys for Couples, According to Experts

Some things are better enjoyed together. 

Just like anything in a relationship, it can be hard to decide on something that satisfies both parties — especially if you’re trying to decide which sex toy you should use together in the bedroom. From vibrators to sex dice, handcuffs to wedge pillows, there’s no shortage of tools you can use to enhance both your and your partner’s pleasure. But, because there are so many options, it’s hard to even know what could be best for you and yours.

We talked with Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., Lovehoney sexologist and relationship expert, to find out what works best when you want to incorporate a toy during sex that both of you can enjoy. While she agrees that toys spice things up physically, talking about what toys you and your partner may enjoy also creates an open dialogue between the two of you. “It can be a reminder to slip out of your roles as co-parents or roommates and slip into your roles as lovers,” she says.

Even if you’ve been with your partner for years, discussing and exploring the use of sex toys can bring you closer together, physically and emotionally. If you find you experience pain with penetration (either as a symptom of menopause or in general), toys are also a way to gain pleasure without penetration while still remaining close to your partner. Some couples find sex post-menopause can be more enjoyable.

“Lifestyle shifts that tend to coincide with post-menopausal years (e.g. kids spending more time away from home, greater financial stability that results in less overall stress) can also lead to more exploration in (and out of) the bedroom,” Dr. O’Reilly says. “Many of my clients have discovered sex toys in their 50s and 60s, as they’ve had more time to dedicate to their intimate relationships and greater confidence expressing their desires to partners.”

If you’re ready to explore the use of toys with your partner but don’t know where to start, don’t worry. Here are some expert-approved sex toys for couples.

Best Sex Toys for Couples 

Maude Essentials Kit

maude bundle
maude

There’s nothing quite like an all-in-one kit, especially when it leads to a fun night in bed. This set from KCM favorite Maude comes with a bullet-style vibrator, organic lubricant, and condoms, so you and your partner are prepared and protected. Plus, all elements can be used on their own, which only extends the possibilities.

Dame Hands-Free Bundle

dame hands free bundle

Having to find a position to hold a vibrator between yourself and your partner can be annoying, especially if you find your hands get in the way. This uniquely shaped toy from Dame uses two silicone arms to hold itself in place, gently hugging the labia so that the vibrator remains in place for clitoral stimulation. In addition, this set comes with the vibrator and a wedge pillow, which helps you reach new angles and positions with ease.

Lovehoney Romp Juke Rechargable Cock Ring

love honey cock ring

“I love any toy you can easily add into your sexual routine without changing a thing,” Dr. O’Reilly says. “If you’re having sex with a penis, a simple vibrating ring is a great option. If you’re brand new to sex toys, consider the Romp Juke. It offers rumbly vibrations for both partners and its angles allow you to play in any position.”

OhNut Buffer Rings

oh nut silicone rings

Some experience pain with penetration only after a certain point, which is why adding a buffer can be beneficial. These silicone rings sit toward the base of the penis to shorten the length that can be used for penetration. You can use as few or as many rings as you and your partner would like, adjusting as necessary. They’re made from a super stretchy silicone material, so they won’t cut off circulation or feel uncomfortable for the wearer either. These can also be used on toys to shorten the penetration length, too.

We-Vibe Chorus

we vibe chorus

Feeling like incorporating a high-tech toy into your routine? “Toys specifically designed for couples, like the We-Vibe Chorus are perfect because they offer stimulation for both you and your partner,” Dr. O’Reilly says. “It can provide G-Spot, clitoris, and shaft stimulation. The Chorus is also adjustable, features touch-sensitive receptors, and offers custom vibrations through the We-Vibe app.”

Arcwave Voy

arcwave voy

If your partner has a penis, using something like the Arcwave can not only introduce them to new sensations, but it’s great for those who experience pain with friction or squeezing sensations. “It can help you to learn to enjoy pleasure beyond the stroking or in-and-out motion,” Dr. O’Reilly says. It’s a cylinder-shaped toy that wraps around the penis seamlessly, applying constant, even pressure all over. It can be rotated, used in a stroking motion, or both at the same time for intense sensations.

Unbound G Spot Basics Bundle

g spot basics bundle

Two is better than one, especially when you save some cash in the process. This bendy vibrator from Unbound has a thin profile that can easily fit between you and your partner during sex, and it’s also long enough for your partner to hold against you depending on what position you’re in. It comes with a tube of lubricant, too. Unbound is also offering a free Magic Babe Ball (think of it as the Magic 8 Ball of sex) with purchases over $5 with the code HAVEABALL. You and your partner can shake it for fun, sexy prompts to complete together.

Le Wand Petite Massager

le wand petite massager

If you’re looking for a powerful toy that will last you a lifetime, this classic wand vibrator will do the trick. This one is a little smaller than the original model, but it has a long handle so you can easily grip it and control where the silicone head goes. The broad end sends vibrations to a larger surface area, making it a great choice for foreplay or for those who don’t enjoy direct clitoral stimulation.

Womanizer Premium 2

womanizer premium vibrator

Instead of vibrations, the Womanizer toys stimulate the area around the clitoris with pulsating air. “They provide indirect stimulation around the head of the clitoris externally and you can adjust the intensity levels from the sensual to the powerful according to your liking,” Dr. O’Reilly says. This is great for those who also experience discomfort with penetration, as all the stimulation is external.

Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace

crave vesper vibrator necklace

This is a toy you can hide in plain sight. Designed as a necklace, this bullet-style vibrator is an elegant, yet powerful, accessory. Made for external stimulation only, this sleek metal vibrator can deliver intense and targeted vibrations wherever you or your partner would like. You could wear it out on date night while thinking about all the ways you can use it later, creating a sense of anticipation for you and your partner.

Lelo Tiani 3

lelo tiani 3

Hands-free toys are amazing if you don’t want to be distracted by moving around or holding something while you and a partner are having sex. This toy by Lelo can be used as an internal and external vibrator during foreplay, but it can also be worn during penetrative sex. A small arm can be inserted into the vagina, holding the vibrating part over the clitoris and delivering vibrations to both areas. If your partner has a penis, they’ll feel the vibrations while entering you, too. Consider it double the fun.

If you are interested in original article by Katherine Pittman, you can find it here

morrama

These sex toys are designed to not be hidden away

Morrama has designed a range of sex toys – including a pink, “rabbit-esque” product called Two Good – for Toy Projects.

Industrial design studio Morrama has crafted a range of vibrators for sexual wellness brand Toy Projects, which aim to please a variety of intimate preferences.

The three products have been designed with insight from female consumers, and include a reinterpretation of a classic lipstick vibrator as well as an all over massager.

Toy Projects was founded in 2020, with the aim of inspiring “forward-thinking sexual wellbeing”. While these are its first sex toys, the brand also sells candles and T-shirts.

“With most women masturbating about once a week, we wanted to create a product that they don’t hide away,” says Toy Projects co-founder Nick Moynihan. The company was also drawn to Morrama given the studio’s mix of male, female and LGBTQ designers, explains Moynihan.

Designed to “elevate intimate culture”

The most unusually-shaped of the three is Two Good. This “rabbit-esque” design has inspired by the “feeling of touching yourself with two fingers”, explains the designer. “It seems so obvious now I can believe there isn’t anything quite like it on the market already,” she adds. “It’s also, coincidentally, the most popular.”

The designs emerged from open discussions about pleasure within the design team and also input from a wider network, Barnard explains. “It was clear that we don’t fit into a neat box when it comes to pleasure preferences,” she adds.

The three toys were all sculpted in clay before being translated into 3D CAD data for manufacturing. Clay was chosen because it “works perfectly with the softness of the medical grade liquid silicone”, says Barnard. The results of the clay-making process can be seen in the “smooth forms of the final designs”, she adds.

Barnard explains that the anthropomorphic shape of the products is deliberate; “as humans we are instinctively drawn to product shapes that suggests some form of character”.

The toys, which can be used in the bath and shower, are available in lavender, pink and pale blue. Having incorporated these “Instagrammable” looks, Barnard hopes that the products “inspire people to shift their thinking about pleasure and spark more open conversations”.

“Working as a team and sharing our understanding of pleasure really helped us to design a product that supports Toy Projects’ mission to elevate intimate culture,” says Barnard.

“We are confident that we have created a design to suit everyone whilst keeping a beautiful visual style and personality across the range,” she adds.

Sex toys have been a popular focus for designers in recent years. SeymourPowell developed an “adaptable sex toy” for vibrator brand MysteryVibe in 2016, for example. Design Week also spoke to Lora DiCarlo, whose sex tech products aim to mimic human touch.


You can find original article by Henry Wong here

Sex trends 2022

Sex trends 2022 – Hottest bedroom trends

Sex trends 2022—discover the hottest new bedroom trends, according to experts

Open-minded, forward-thinking, and menopause-friendly, these are the sex trends set to be big in 2022

It’s no surprise that after being stuck at home an awful lot over the past two years, couples have been looking at ways to spice up their sex life. We asked sex experts what the big 2022 sex trends are going to be and how to try them out at home.

According to research by dating app Hinge, half of adults say they want to explore new sexual desires with a partner, and around 80% say it’s important to them that a partner is sexually open and adventurous. Our experts believe that the sex trends that are set to be big in 2022 reflect the growing openness and willingness among couples to experiment with new sex positions and sexual fantasies—whether that’s with your partner or best vibrator. “The trends in 2022 demonstrate a shift in attitude to being more flexible and open-minded when it comes to our sex lives,” says Kate Moyle, a sex and relationship expert. “We see this reflected in the normalizing of sexual acts, desires, and attitudes which were previously unspoken about or hidden. This approach to sexual wellness being included and recognized as a part of our overall health and wellbeing should be here to stay, and we should expect it to be the foundation from which all future sex trends are stemming.”

As well as becoming more comfortable with our sexuality and bodies, an overarching theme is looking towards a more sustainable sex life and sexual habits don’t negatively impact the environment. “I’ve noticed a big shift in my clients switching to environmentally friendly sex toys,” says Katie Lasson, sexologist, and relationship advisor. “More and more people are looking to make sustainable changes in every aspect of their life and their sexual play is no exception. My clients are looking for sex toys that can be recharged and are made from body-safe environmentally friendly materials.”

SEX TRENDS 2022, ACCORDING TO SEX EXPERTS

 

1. OUTCOURSE

For many of us, Covid is still at the forefront of our minds, particularly when it comes to sex. According to dating app Hinge, a third of people say they are waiting longer to have sex with new partners because of Covid fears. ‘Outcourse’ is set to be a solution to this.

“Engaging in sexual activity, but without intercourse, means different things to different people,” says Moyle. “Some people see it as everything except penetration, others see it as just dry humping, a massage, perhaps even mutual masturbation. Outercourse is presenting itself as a safe sex alternative as it clearly establishes boundaries and encourages better communication for intimacy and pleasure. Your definition of it depends on your reasons for trying it, and because of this, it may just prove to be the best new sex trend of them all.”

 

2. SENSORY SEX

In a post-Covid world, fostering connection both with others and ourselves has proven one of the biggest trends when it comes to sexual wellness in the last year. “With mindful masturbation and tantric sex hot trends of 2020 and 2021, the next big wellness trend will be sensory sex,” says clinical sexologist, Megwyn White. “Sensory sex is the act of engaging as many senses as you can to help in heightening sexual pleasure and deepening the intimacy with a chosen partner.

“From the visual to the auditory to the tactile, by putting the focus on pleasurable sensations throughout the body, sensory sex can help you let go of the pressures that come with an exclusive focus on the genitals.”

One way to explore sensory sex is through music, which ignites the same parts of the brain as food and sexual pleasure. “This means that when you pair your favorite sensual playlist with sex, it helps your mind and body embrace pleasure. Plus, it’s not only the ear that hears. The rest of the body also has the capacity to detect sounds through ‘feeling’ them, which is why immersive sound spaces like concerts can feel so intense.”

 

3. HETROFLEXIBILITY

If the last two years have taught us anything, it is that life is pretty uncertain. “The understanding of female desire, female masturbation and orgasms are growing phenomena,” says Moyle. “Our understanding of sexuality is evolving and it’s an important part of a personal relationship with one’s own sensuality and pleasure is to explore various aspects of your sex life.

“So, if you identify as ‘mostly straight’, but occasionally find yourself attracted to the same gender, romantically or sexually or both, embrace it. Sexuality exists on a spectrum and while some people believe labels aren’t helpful, for others they really can be. Every heteroflexible person is different, and their experiences may look different. What they do have in common is that they help you to make sense of yourself, which is precious and worth exploring.”

 

3. BETTER FOREPLAY

“With a growing emphasis on female pleasure in recent years and a better understanding of the female body, women have been able to explore their bodies more openly be it solo or with a partner,” explains White. “However, what many women experience are feelings of orgasm anxiety. This can be described as anxiety in relation to performance, eg, performance anxiety or anxiety about the need to orgasm, or otherwise anxiety in the build-up to orgasm.

“For most, sexual anxiety can be eased through a better understanding of foreplay, and learning that sex can allow you to explore more erogenous zones. Focusing on connection and being present is a key element of tantric sex, and the end goal is not to orgasm, but to enjoy the sexual journey, the sensations, and the way it makes us feel mentally, physically, and spiritually.”

 

4. SEX AND SUPPLEMENTS

 

Whether it’s mainstream retailers like Hollard & Barratt adding supplements to its Sexual Health shelves, or smaller brands creating blends that aim to balance our hormone during our varied life cycles; we have seen a huge increase in supplements that are scientifically proven to help us through various sexual health symptoms and issues that we can face during our lives, such as lack of sex drive or vaginal dryness.

“There’s a growing acknowledgment that what we eat can affect our sexual health,” says sexual expert Dominique Karetsos. “However, we have to be mindful that no supplement is a magic fix. We have to consider our sexual health from the inside out, and no single product is a solution, however, supplements can be just one tool in your armory towards your holistic sexual wellness.”

 

5. ANAL EDGING

 

“Anal sex may not be for everyone—however, this doesn’t mean that you have to avoid the pleasures of exploring the anal area together,” says White. “The anus has thousands of pleasurable nerves and orgasms can be achieved by both women and men.

“Stimulating the perineum as a form of anal edging can also create hugely positive sensations. From finger play to rimming, spanking, or using an accessory like a butt plug or anal beads, it’s important to broaden our definition of anal sex and anal play so that we don’t consider penetration the only pleasurable option.”

 

6. THERAPY AND SEX

“Covid has encouraged more brands to invest in telehealth (or digital healthcare) over and above their standard products,” says Karetsos. “Many places are now offering online healthcare around typically taboo medical topics. Though this is a fantastic step forwards, we’re not seeing the same scale and speed in telehealth for our sexual wellness that we’re seeing in other areas of our health and wellbeing.

“Over 2022, I hope that we will see the evolution of sexual digital healthcare via subscriptions that talk to us at every stage of our lives, whether it’s speaking to pre-teens about their menstrual cycle or to menopausal women about how to deal with their symptoms while still having a healthy sex life.”

 

7. SEX BRANDS CHAMPIONING MENOPAUSE

During menopause, many women suffer from vaginal dryness, which can impact their sex life greatly. “Now the menopause is fast becoming less taboo, a glut of brands has begun creating products that attempt to address menopausal symptoms,” says Karetsos.

“However, there’s a lack of education around why someone would need to use any of these products. If a brand offers you 20+ products to consume in one day to target the symptoms of menopause, it’s not necessary nor is it sustainable. Thankfully, on the flip side, there are some great brands whose offerings are specifically tailored to this time in our lives. 2022 will see the rise of brands like Gennev, Tabu, and Womaness, that put education surrounding menopause at the forefront of their approach.”

 

You can find original article by STACEY CARTER here

Sex Positions That Will Keep the Long & Boring Winter Months Exciting

Sex Positions That Will Keep the Long & Boring Winter Months Exciting

Winter can be a major bummer. Between the minimal daylight hours, the cold and the often-gray weather, it’s hard to get motivated to leave the house. Hard to go out with friends. Hard to get to the gym. Life gets boring! It’s no wonder so many of us wait for spring with bated breath to start living our lives again. And sometimes our sex lives feel like they need to thaw out too.

To get started, we put together some fun and exciting (but reasonable and attainable for people who aren’t double-jointed) sex positions. These positions are just new enough to keep things interesting without feeling like you’ve become a contortionist. Even if they don’t lead you to new heights of orgasm, you might get a few good laughs trying. Test them out, and good luck beating the winter blues.